Trip Report
We spent a long weekend in Florida, attending my niece's wedding and meeting our new granddaughter.
My niece's wedding was a temple affair. I did not attend. My husband went to the sealing with my MIL. I was rather taken aback at how I felt ironing my husband's good white dress shirt, then sending him off to the temple without me. In the past, attending the temple was something good and meaningful that we did together. I felt a sense of loss that this is no longer something we can share.
The reception was wonderful. The bride and groom were stunning; a gorgeous couple. The two of them shared a ring ceremony after a dinner for the family (the groom's family is not LDS, and so did not attend the service). They each read a piece of poetry they had written for the other. I wish I had been able to stay for that...but little boy started being disruptive so felt I ought to leave to keep him quiet. He and I played on the stairs to the stage, and bothered the caterers (but only a little bit). The food was tasty, and the music was excellent, and I had fun mingling with the groom's family.
The next day, Saturday, we went further south to see my daughter and her family. My granddaughter, Amy, was only five days old. Dark hair, with a face quite like her big brother's. I went grocery shopping and cooked up a bunch of meat (ground beef, chicken breasts) to freeze so meals can happen more easily. We visited for a bit and watched "Breakfast at Tiffany's," which my daughter said she doesn't "get." We drove back north that evening.
Sunday, we had breakfast and lunch with my in-laws, who blew off church (bless 'em) and then left for home around 1:30. With the time change, we were home by 8:30 p.m. I studied most of the time we were in the car (on the way there, the way to see my daughter, and the way home).
My mother-in-law made a funny statement: "Well, you've had a nice relaxing break from your hectic life." It was about the opposite: we had a hectic break from our relaxing life.
My niece's wedding was a temple affair. I did not attend. My husband went to the sealing with my MIL. I was rather taken aback at how I felt ironing my husband's good white dress shirt, then sending him off to the temple without me. In the past, attending the temple was something good and meaningful that we did together. I felt a sense of loss that this is no longer something we can share.
The reception was wonderful. The bride and groom were stunning; a gorgeous couple. The two of them shared a ring ceremony after a dinner for the family (the groom's family is not LDS, and so did not attend the service). They each read a piece of poetry they had written for the other. I wish I had been able to stay for that...but little boy started being disruptive so felt I ought to leave to keep him quiet. He and I played on the stairs to the stage, and bothered the caterers (but only a little bit). The food was tasty, and the music was excellent, and I had fun mingling with the groom's family.
The next day, Saturday, we went further south to see my daughter and her family. My granddaughter, Amy, was only five days old. Dark hair, with a face quite like her big brother's. I went grocery shopping and cooked up a bunch of meat (ground beef, chicken breasts) to freeze so meals can happen more easily. We visited for a bit and watched "Breakfast at Tiffany's," which my daughter said she doesn't "get." We drove back north that evening.
Sunday, we had breakfast and lunch with my in-laws, who blew off church (bless 'em) and then left for home around 1:30. With the time change, we were home by 8:30 p.m. I studied most of the time we were in the car (on the way there, the way to see my daughter, and the way home).
My mother-in-law made a funny statement: "Well, you've had a nice relaxing break from your hectic life." It was about the opposite: we had a hectic break from our relaxing life.
5 Comments:
What a nice trip overall, Ann. How did your dh feel about going to the temple without you?
My friend's mom is a total heathen but has decided to play the role of believing NOM for the sake of her beloved DH. She's on the RS board and has a current TR and lied through her teeth to get it, but felt that she needed to appease her sweet husband. She's able to just say its just church, I imagine. Two years ago I would have thought she was bonkers, but I think I understand now.
I'm glad you are back, I've missed you.
Sounds like the ring ceremony went well. My wife and I also had a ring ceremony at our wedding, as her family is largely non-LDS. That poetry reading part sounds like a very nice touch. Makes me want to go write a poem for my wife. :)
danithew
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I liked your "hectic break from a relaxing life." Well put. I'm about to embark on the same in a couple of days -- meeting up with a bunch of cousins in Utah, all of whom are multiplying and replenishing the earth with little cherub Mormons :)
-Brenda
I asked DH if he thought about me not being there with him, and I think it stressed him a bit. Not me not being at the temple, but the question itself: "Is this a trick question, like 'Does this dress make me look fat?' or 'Why didn't you say anything about my new hairstyle?'"
I don't think it bothered him at all. He takes temple attendance very seriously, and it would make no sense to him for me to attend. He knows that I don't believe ordinances for the dead are necessary, so why would I want to go?
It's nice you were able to enjoy the trip. The whole temple thing can become a real touchy issue, but you seem to have avoided that yourself. No controlling how family and in-laws deal with it, of course (some just can't stop themselves from continually venting their distress), but you seem to have lucked out there as well.
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